A Positive Outlook: Being Single

Wednesday, 13 May 2015


I've been thinking quite a lot recently about being single.

Personally I think 2015 is my year for happiness! I'm the happiest I've ever been and I am completely 100% single.


And I actually think I want to stay that way.

If you know me...you will know this is a big deal!

All I've ever wanted is to get married and have babies, and I still want those things, but I've realised that I don't have to rush. The right guy will come along and then I can have those things....but I imagine he won't turn up this year and that's fine.

I actually think I don't even have time for a boyfriend...so I thought I'd do a fun little blog with my pros of being single vs being in a relationship



Time Management
In a relationship
You always have someone to hang out with, so you always have plans for the weekend and don't have to make plans in advance so that you know you won't be stuck alone on a Friday night...

Single
But being single, you don't have to consult anyone about anything...if you want to plan to go on holiday with your friends over the bank holiday you can...noone to ask, noone to say do we have plans this weekend because I was thinking about going out with my friends. It is so refreshing to do whatever I want. I'm going to Vegas in less than a month...and I didn't have to ask anyone if I could go!
I also think that not having someone to rely on for fun every weekend means you make better plans. You see your friends more, and have time to do things like meet up with girls from school you haven't seen for years. The things that normally you would put off as you have weekend plans.

Bedtime
In a relationship
You get cuddles...and this is something I actually kind of miss...and of course you get to have sex

Single
However, I get my entire bed...I can spread out, I don't get too hot in the night having someone else there. I can wake up at whatever time and not have someone wake up earlier than me and be tapping away on their phone!!




Financial
In a relationship
I'm not sure what pros there are to being in a relationship financially...I guess if you have a money savvy boyfriend you can encourage each other to save a certain amount each month?

Single
Your money is yours...you don't have to buy presents for someone else, or pay for train fares to their house. You don't go to as many fancy restaurants because you don't feel the "need" to do nice things together and therefore you don't end up footing half the bill...or all the bill in some cases!
You can basically budget yourself, save as much as you want to and spend as much as you want to. It's yours.
I do think money is something that causes the most arguments in couples and I've certainly started those fights, ended those fights and been on the receiving end of such fights.


Holidays
In a relationship
Ok so it is nice to have someone that guaranteed you will probably go on holiday with, even if it is just going away somewhere in the UK. Generally you will probably have a travel buddy

Single
Urm you get to go on girls trips without having a guy at home stalking your facebook, telling you what to wear and making you feel guilty if you don't text him 24/7!!....Just me?? No - I'm sure lots of girls have experienced that before even if the ones with perfect boyfriends don't.
This year I think I'm having the best holidays ever - Brazil, Vegas, Malta, Turkey and I didn't have to consult anyone.
I booked Brazil about a month before I went and took off on my own to a country halfway across the world for two and a half weeks. And I just did it because I wanted to!




Attending Weddings
In a relationship
Ok so most girls like to have a plus one to take with them and it is nice to have one.

Single
First of all you save your bride and groom friends the cost of thinking they have to invite your plus one, worrying whether they will offend you if they don't invite him etc etc... this is a major plus here! You can get with the hot best man or usher or whoever you want. Chances are someone who is friends with the groom (who I'm assuming you like and isn't a commitmentphobe as he is getting married) might be a nice guy? AND you don't have to cling onto your boyfriend all night and entertain them if it is your friends wedding and they don't know anyone! You can be on the dancefloor and chatting to everyone and enjoying the wedding.


TV
In a relationship
You have someone to watch your favourite series with or watch a film with in bed.

Single
If you want to watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians for a five hour marathon on a Sunday...you can! No having to share the remote or watch some stupid film about cars...This is definitely a pro. Plus when you want to watch Game of Thrones there is noone asking who all the characters are. Don't Talk Whilst Its On!! 

Home
In a relationship
You have someone to come home to (if you live with them)

Single
You get to have alone time. I spoke to my friends about the pros and cons of relationships (most of them said the time management one was their main issue) but a few said just having alone time. Coming home to an empty house and just doing whatever you want. Taking the time to do your nails, take a bath and just being on your own. I know some people don't like their own company but I do - I'm a hoot!




And there you have it - I'm sure there are more things too that I've missed. 

Comment below what your favourite thing about being single is that you can't do whilst in a relationship!


Just a little disclaimer - I have friends with the most wonderful boyfriends who are really happy.
Nothing against the happy people! I'm just happy single.

When the right guy finds me (not the other way round) I'm sure I will be one of those annoying couples again who is super loved up and doesn't care about any of the above.

But for now.... being single is brilliant!

6 comments :

  1. This made me feel really positive about being single! <3

    Www.wishuponthatstarx.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. I'm glad :) that's what I was aiming for!
      xxx

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  2. Hahaha, you're making me miss being single!

    Abby // SBW-D.blogspot.com

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    1. You probably get a cuddle though - the main pro to being in a relationship! xxx

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  3. It's good to see I'm not the only one who isn't bothered by being single! It will come when it comes, you just have to enjoy all of those positives you listed :)

    Shannon xo | http://lotsofloveshannon.blogspot.com.au/

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    1. I'm glad others aren't! Some people I know act like its a disease! Xxx

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